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50 Questions to Really Get to Know Your Spouse

50 Questions to Really Get to Know Your Spouse

Maybe you’ve been married for a while and the conversation has run dry. Maybe you’re newly married or engaged and want to know your partner at a deeper level. Or maybe you two are so busy and want to have deep conversations but don’t know where to start or have the time to think up thought provoking questions.

Whatever stage your marriage is in, we have come up with 50 fun and thought provoking questions to ask each other on date night. Find a quite place, get comfy, light some candles, follow the instructions below and let the conversation begin!




  1. Download the PDF!
  2. Print, cut, fold each question and place them in the bowl, times two (one bowl with the 50 questions for you and one for your partner).
  3. Take turns pulling questions from your bowls and answering them.
  4. Keep in mind that these are great conversation starters. Try not to answer with one or two words and elaborate on your answers.

If you have less time or 50 questions seems a little daunting, you can always print one copy, put them into a bowl and take turns answering until the questions are gone. Whatever is easiest for you!




  1. What is your biggest pet peeve?
  2. What’s your favorite childhood memory?
  3. If you had to choose one superpower, which would you choose and why?
  4. What is your biggest fear?
  5. What was the last book you read?
  6. What is your favorite movie/book line?
  7. Choose one: wisdom, love, fame or fortune?
  8. If you won the lottery, what would be the first thing you spend the money on?
  9. If you were on a deserted island and could only bring three items, what would they be?
  10. If there was a fire in the house, what would be the first thing you would grab?
  11. Choose one: beach, forest, desert, mountains or city?
  12. What’s your favorite story to tell?
  13. If you could trade lives with anyone, who would it be?
  14. What was your favorite TV show when you were a kid?
  15. If there was no electricity, what would you do for entertainment?
  16. What’s your favorite compliment you’ve gotten from someone?
  17. What’s your favorite family tradition?
  18. What’s the biggest lesson you’ve learned in life?
  19. What is your view of failure?
  20. What habit do you want to break?
  21. If you got a month off from work and had all of the money in the world, where would you go, what would you see and what would you like to do?
  22. If you met someone new, what’s the first impression you want to make?
  23. If you could sum up your life to one sentence in a fortune cookie, what would it say?
  24. If you could choose a past president – dead or alive – to come back and be president again, who would you pick?
  25. What’s the scariest situation you’ve ever been in?
  26. What is your ultimate bucket list item?
  27. What was the last thing that made you cry?
  28. If you had to listen to one song for the rest of your life, what would it be?
  29. Choose a decade to go back to live in: 20’s, 30’s, 40’s, 50’s, 60’s, 70’s, 80’s or 90’s?
  30. What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?
  31. Choose one: 1 best friend or a ton of acquaintances?
  32. What is your ultimate Saturday night?
  33. What extracurricular activities did you participate in high school?
  34. If you had to study one subject from high school for the rest of your life, what would it be?
  35. What do you miss most about being a kid?
  36. When you were a kid, what did you want to be when you grew up?
  37. What are you most thankful for?
  38. What scent brings up the most memories?
  39. If you could choose anyone in the world to mentor you, who would it be?
  40. If you could choose one thing to change about the world, what would it be?
  41. What is one thing that makes you truly happy?
  42. What defines a good friend to you?
  43. If you could go back in time and change one thing in your life, what would it 50 Questions to Really Get to Know Your Spousebe?
  44. What’s the best adventure you’ve been on so far?
  45. What goal have you given up on?
  46. Is there something that you are holding onto that you should give up?
  47. If you could change your name, what would you change it to?
  48. What was your childhood nickname?
  49. What was the last thing you did that made you feel challenged?
  50. What makes you feel the most loved or appreciated?






    • Click on the link that says PDF. It will either download to your download folder or open a new tab in your browser where you can view it. If it opens in a new tab, there will be a download icon along the top part of the PDF view that you can click or you can print straight from that page. Let me know if you’re still having issues!

  1. Good questions! I think that over time we forget to ask questions like these of our spouse and assume we know everything. It is so important to continue to learn more about your spouse.

    • Agreed and such a true statement! And that’s exactly why we came up with this list. They go beyond the typical conversation or relationship questions. Hope you enjoy these!

  2. I love this! We have been married for 33 years and I still don’t have the answers to some of these questions. You never stop discovering new things about each other.

    • Thank you! That was my objective for this post. I tried to think of as many questions as possible that go on a deeper level than typical conversation. Hope you learn lots of new interesting facts about your spouse 🙂

  3. Great fun!! This would be good when we’re on a long car trip (7 hours) up to see our kids in San Francisco next month! Just found your blog– very original! thanks.

    • Thanks Rhonda! Hope you enjoy! Good luck staying entertained and enjoy San Fran 😊 I know that drive all to well!

      • Hi Stacy– we have 2 kids and their families up there so we head north 5 or 6 times a year! Hope you are discovering good drives and places to explore in Rhode Island!! Fun to find your blog!

      • Lots of quaint and beautiful drives (especially in the fall) out here! Quite the change from our San Diego life 🙂

      • Hi Stacey– yep, we took an anniversary trip last summer to upstate New York and were awed by how beautiful and green it was! (quite a change from dry socal!).

  4. After almost 60 years of marriage, I still don’t know why he leaves the lid up, drops his underwear on on the floor by the bed, and thinks he’s the only one who REALLY knows how to drive.

  5. Great post! My hubby and I have been together for 10 years but I still couldn’t predict his answer to quite a few of these.
    And thanks for liking my blog post — Postpartum Pain: I Hate Your Face. It’s really tough to publicly discuss issues like postpartum depression, so to know my post was appreciated means a lot.

    • I’m so glad! We wrote this post for married couples to go deeper so happy to hear there were some good questions in there for you.

      And thank you for being so open and honest about your pregnancy story. It’s not openly talked about and needs to be. Although we haven’t had kids, but I’ve had a couple of friends have had some or all of your struggles and it’s heartbreaking to see them go through it. You’re an example of strength for putting it all out there. Keep writing and being a voice!

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