It’s that time of year again, when you and your honey are preparing to celebrate another year of wedded bliss, or if you are dating, another year of happy partnership. These events should always be memorable and special. However, it seems that this may become a hard event to plan when you are in the middle of the thing we all must tolerate, life. We feel the stress and anxiety that accompanies life as much as the next couple. Here are a few things that have helped us plan successful and relaxing anniversaries so far in our journey together.
1. Plan Ahead
This may seem obvious but it is a must with any event. Set a reminder for yourself a month (or more if you’re thinking of traveling) in advance so you can actually have a moment to think about what you’d like to do. By planning ahead, you will circumvent one of the biggest things that creates distaste for anniversaries: stress. No one likes it and we are all combating it in our daily routines so do yourself a favor, and take 30 minutes to plan a stress free anniversary.
2. Make it Memorable
Anniversaries only come once a year and if all you do is dinner and a movie, then how is that different from any other date night? Think of doing something that you will look back on in years to come and remember how special that day was. It could be going to dinner but to an over-the-top fancy restaurant that is definitely not within your usual price range. It could be taking off to a hotel out in the middle of the mountains for a long weekend. Whatever you choose will ultimately appeal to your tastes but we believe you should be able to differentiate each and every anniversary.
3. Be Flexible
As with all things, you should always remain flexible in the face of adversity. Meaning that if your plans do not go as perfectly as you imagined, take a deep breath and roll with the punches. A lot of the time, the events that do not go as we had hoped end up being a very memorable time regardless. It could be that you planned a fancy dinner at home and the meat burned or the dog decided to taste the food. These events will make anyone frustrated but the way in which we react to them can change the entire situation.
4. Focus on One Another’s Love Language
Everyone likes to be loved in their own way. With that being said, this should be one of the biggest considerations when choosing what to do for your anniversary. It just so happens that my wife is a word fanatic. Any words of love or affirmation are music to her ears so I decided for our last anniversary to hide cards all around our home for her to find in the morning. Not only did this create somewhat of a fun scavenger hunt, but she also got to read little love notes that made her feel truly loved.
5. Don’t Make it Mundane
While weekly date nights may experience some recurring themes, don’t let your anniversary do the same. Even if you are comfortable doing similar things most of the time, a little excitement never hurt anyone. Additionally, you should look at your anniversary as another year that you beat divorce. This in no way is meant to say that couples are constantly fighting off divorce. However, with divorce rates as high as they are, an anniversary is truly a reason to celebrate. You have spent another year loving someone who makes you happy.
These are a few of the things we have learned over the years. If you have any ideas or experiences, please share with our community here. We’d love to hear from you!