If you’ve been married for a minute, you may have heard of the book “The 5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman. If not, it is a must read for anyone looking to win at the game of marriage, meaning everyone who aspires to live life with their best friend! My wife and I have found this to be a very useful tool in identifying how each of us prefers to be loved.
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As the title of the book suggests, there are 5 love languages: gift giving, quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service, and physical touch. The titles are fairly self-explanatory; however, the book describes the implications of how the reader can adjust to their partners specific love language. On the flip side, the book offers you the opportunity to determine your own language and help you communicate that to your partner. The 5 love languages go both ways and here at Tonight’s Better Together, we wanted to give you simple inspirations on how you can show love to your boo.
- Grab their favorite candy on the way home from work
- Bring them coffee at work unexpectedly
- Spontaneously get them flowers or a plant they love
- Buy them tickets to their favorite band or performer on a whim
- Give them small “stocking stuffer” gifts to let them know you are thinking about them – make sure they are timely!
- Take an hour out of your evening to just talk (listening is also required)
- Go to your nearest park and take a walk, enjoying being in your partners presence
- Make a time to put the phones away once you get home so that there is nothing disrupting
- Get in the car and take a drive through your favorite area of town
- Schedule a date night once a week!
Words of Affirmation
- Write your partner a letter about the first time you met or went on a date with them
- Tell them how they make you feel – do not spare any details!
- Write a list of all the things you like about them and then share it with them
- Praise them when they have a victory at work, as well as when they have a defeat
- Text them when you are thinking about them and describe what you are thinking
Acts of Service
- Clear the snow off their car in the winter or wash their car
- Do all the chores before they get home
- Help them get a difficult task finished
- Cook their favorite meal during a busy work week
- Open the door (car or building) – chivalry is not dead
- Hold their hand unexpectedly
- Give them a hug at least 5 times a day
- Sit close together on the couch
- Kiss them often!
- Rub their feet and/or shoulders after a long day
These are just a few interpretations of how you can show your special someone how much you love them, but don’t let this be limiting. Relationships are situational. We would love to hear the unique ways you and yours have used the 5 love languages in your relationship! Share your ideas with our readers below.