Author: Stacey

Eric and Stacey

21 Things You Didn’t Know About Us

We spend a lot of time sharing date ideas, marriage resources, and recipes for two with you so we thought it was time we’d share a little about ourselves. Hope you get to know us a little better! Stacey: I have an obsession with sharks, especially great whites. I think they get a bad rap and great white attacks are because of confusion or curiosity. I do fear bull sharks though due to their territorial behavior. I actually had an encounter with one on the shores of South Carolina and was nudged in the leg a couple of times. I took it as a warning and Jesus-lizarded (is that a word?) across the water. My bucket list is swim with a Whale Shark. Eric: I don’t have an acute fear of spiders but I would safely say they are probably one of my least favorite animals on the planet. Eight legs just ain’t right and there is no way you can convince me otherwise. Stacey: Eric and I actually first met at church. It was …

Attention Engaged New Englanders!

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8 ways support your spouse when they lose their job

8 Ways Support Your Spouse When They Lose Their Job

This month, we’ve been faced with something we’re never been through. A layoff from work. If you’re a seasoned human being, I’m sure you’ve been through it. It happens to many of us. But this is our first time. And it’s rough. If you’re going through a job loss with your spouse, we’re here to encourage you. We want to lift you up in this time of trial because trust us, it can be trying on a marriage. So as we’re going through this as a family, I thought why not share some valuable lessons we’ve learned on this journey. 1. Have a “it’s not the end of the world” mindset Really, it’s not. It’s a job. It’s not who you or your spouse are as individuals. It’s actually temporary if you look at the entire span of your life. Okay, I might be getting a little too deep a little too quick, but a job really is a season, not a lifetime. 2. Be constructive, not destructive This is not the time to grill …

Fun and Frugal Date Night Idea: DIY Nerf Gun Game

Fun and Frugal Date Night Idea: DIY Nerf Gun Game

Sometimes it’s a little fun to get goofy and have an unconventional date night. That’s why we came up with a fun DIY target practice date night for you and your special someone to try your hand in Nerf gun skills. Whether it’s just you and your boo or the whole family, get ready to have some fun. Perfect for anyone on a budget, a great stay-out-home date idea, or to celebrate your husband on Father’s Day. What you’ll need: 10 paper or plastic disposable cups (smaller cups are more challenging) Scotch tape Scissors One Nerf gun Nerf gun amo (this game calls for 10 shots per round) A large area in the house with no breakables around (a dining table works great!) This PDF printable for targets and score cards Paper A printer Instructions: Print the PDF targets and score cards then cut them out. Put the score cards aside; you’ll be using those during game play. Tape your cut out targets to the outside, upper part of the cup. If you have smaller …

Our Top Ten 2017 Posts for Marriage Resources and Date Ideas

Our Top Ten 2017 Posts for Marriage Resources and Date Ideas

We’ve successfully reached a second year in blogging and we have a lot to celebrate. We have an ever growing and amazing community of 5,000+ readers, we’ve written 94 posts, and have spent countless hours planning, researching, writing, photographing, and learning. We’ve even started a monthly newsletter, and have collaborated with fellow relationship bloggers and date night worthy products and services. The long hours haven’t been easy but it’s certainly been worth it! So in celebration of our two year blogiversary, here’s a round up of the top ten articles that became everyone’s favorite over the past year. If you’re not a weekly reader or if this is your first time here, this is a great way to get to know us. We invite you read and join the community. 1. 50 Questions to Really Get to Know Your Spouse Maybe you’ve been married for a while and the conversation has run dry. Maybe you’re newly married or engaged and want to know your partner on a deeper level. Or maybe you two are so …

10 Ways to Become an Expert Communicator in Your Marriage

10 Ways to Become an Expert Communicator in Your Marriage

Most marriage conflicts are caused by one issue: miscommunication. Communication seems simple. You talk, then your spouse talks, then you’re good! Right? Communication is a complex topic. Not only do people communicate differently but there are also multiple ways to communicate such as intention, tone, frequency, verbalization, and even physical. We have issues that every other marriage couple faces: in-laws, both families living on the other side of the country on opposite ends (always a touchy conversation regarding splitting the holidays), financial issues, heath problems, you name it. But we’ve resolved every single one of our fights within one hour or less through intentional communication in our marriage. We’ve simplified communication in marriage and compiled our experience into 10 easy-to-accomplish ways to become a pro-communicator with your spouse. 1. Replace nagging with encouragement Nagging doesn’t get you anywhere. It’s negative and belittles your spouse. When you change your nagging to encouragement, your spouse will be happier to respond and will feel respected. Start finding things your spouse does around the house that makes you happy …

50 Fun "Would You Rather" Questions to Get to Know Your Spouse

50 Fun “Would You Rather” Questions to Get to Know Your Spouse

Need a fun activity for date night that really gets the laughs and conversation flowing? Newly married or engaged and want to get know your partner even more? We’ve come up with some fun (and a few funny), thought provoking questions for you and your partner to get a little closer and laugh together. Find a quiet place, get comfy, light some candles, follow the instructions below and let the conversation begin! Instructions: Download the PDF! Print, cut, fold each question and place them in the bowl, times two (one bowl with the 50 questions for you and one for your partner). Take turns pulling questions from your bowls and answering them. You can’t say answer with “both” or “neither”. That’s cheating! If you have less time or 50 questions seems a little daunting, you can always print one copy, put them into a bowl and take turns answering until the questions are gone. Whatever is easiest for you! Questions: Would you rather travel to the past or the future? Would you rather have hard …

20 Ways to Appreciate Your Spouse and Stop Complacency From Damaging Your Marriage

Complacency is a nasty little thing. It’s a dangerous habit in marriage that’s easy to fall into and  can result in taking your significant other for granted. Time slips by and so do jobs, bills, kids, house, and family responsibilities. Before you know it, you and your spouse have no time to connect and you’re putting your relationship on auto-pilot. The best way to fight complacency in marriage is through appreciation. Here are 20 easy actions you can do to appreciate your spouse and stop complacency dead in its tracks. Bring your spouse flowers. Send your spouse appreciative text messages. Leave Post-It notes on the bathroom mirror telling your spouse how you appreciate them. Leave a letter of appreciation in your spouse’s car. Pack a note of appreciation into your spouse’s lunch box. Make your spouse a special dinner just because. Remember to say thank you when your spouse does something small for you. Remember to be appreciative if your spouse does something big for you. Buy your spouse a small gift to show them …

5 Successful Ways to Manage Expectations in Your Marriage

5 Successful Ways to Manage Expectations in Your Marriage

A lot of marital issues come from unmet expectations. It’s inevitable that when two people come together, there will be disappointment when it comes to building a life together.  Often times though, the pain of unmet expectations can be prevented. Let go of your assumptions and unrealistic expectations in a marriage by following these five helpful tips. 1. Communicate! The number one reason why there are so many let down expectations is due to lack of communication. If you can really grasp how to communicate with your partner, you’ll see an immediate increase in met expectations. 2. Needs versus wants This is a great question to ask yourself before or during the moment you feel your expectations aren’t being met. What do you really need versus what do you really want? Draw a line for yourself in between these two. For example, if you and your partner are going on vacation, make a list of things you need to make you happy. Mine is a nice place to stay with good service, a pool and …

Sexy Easter Egg Hunt - Add a Spark to Your Marriage!

Sexy Easter Egg Hunt – Add a Spark to Your Marriage!

This date night idea is not for those who blush easily. If you’re looking to add a spark to your marriage, we have a fun, spring themed activity to get the engines of romance revving. This is an adult, married couple Easter egg hunt that does not include jelly beans! Put the kiddos to bed and let the hunt begin.   Instructions Download, print, and cut out the PDF or write these ideas on stickies. If there’s any that make you feel uncomfortable, you don’t need to include them. Download here Purchase 3 of 12 packs of empty plastic Easter eggs. Stuff the Easter eggs with the sexy ideas. Put the kids to bed or find a baby sitter! Toss the eggs around the bedroom, living room, and dining room. Ready, set, go! It’s time for your spouse and you to collect as many as possible. Open your eggs when your ready to use them and follow the instructions on the papers in the eggs. I recommend both you and your spouse opening a few …

San Pedro, Belize

Everything You Need to Know for a Week in San Pedro, Belize

If you have been following us on Instagram, you’ve seen us post some dreamy, tropical photos lately. After a few months of hard work at our day jobs while balancing the blog and home life, Eric and I were in desperate need of a getaway. With that, we met Eric’s family for some good, ol’ fashioned R and R in the sunshine and aqua ocean of San Pedro, Belize. I think the main lesson for me during this vacation was to unplug! I’m a web designer by trade so I am constantly plugged in. The good news was internet connectivity was spotty. Just what I needed! Though it was tempting at first, I soon found myself only needing my phone to take a million, dreamy summer pictures. I even stopped paying attention to the time and what day it was. I call that a success! I was really able to finally relax for once and engulf myself in the tropical paradise of San Pedro. This being my first real international trip (Mexico and Canada don’t …

Antique Store Scavenger Hunt Date Night

Antique Store Scavenger Hunt Date Night – with Free PDF Download

A scavenger hunt at an antique store is the perfect winter date idea for those rainy or snowy nights when you want to leave the house and do something other than the age old dinner and a movie. It’s fun to dig through the past finding a few treasures but mostly trash. It’s also a great budget date night! And who knows, you might find a sweet deal on an item or a fun trinket to commemorate the night. Here’s a list of thirty items to find. Split up and race each other if you’re the competitive type. Don’t forget to take photos for proof! Or find the items together, laughing at all of the odd novelties along the way. Download the scavenger hunt list here. Print and check off the items as you find them. Child’s highchair Glass chandelier Tea set Suitcase Copper teapot Sowing machine Toy car Child’s doll Type writer Globe Tea tin Cook book Gaudy broach Fur coat Hand mixer Candelabra Jacket with shoulder pads Turquoise jewelry Apron Clock Sequined dress …

What can rest do for your marriage?

9 Effective Ways to Stop Stress from Hurting Your Marriage

We’re living in a world where everything is instant, households require two working parents, and stress/anxiety are a quickly growing psychological struggle for the masses. It’s so easy to get caught up in the trials of daily life without realizing the lasting impact it may have on your health and relationships. I’ve admittedly been a busy bee for the past couple of months. My nose has been in the laptop or a phone for far too long and I haven’t been enjoying the small things. In the grips of working 70 hours a week in my day job, running a blog part time, serving at church, and domestic duties, I have been stressed and consumed with everything I need to do. So much so, that it affects my physical health and my attitude in relationships. My husband on the other hand is really good at rest. He can shut off the stress of to-do lists and immediately switch to having fun playing a video game or relaxing on the couch with me. All the while, …

30 ways to respect your husband

30 Ways to Respect and Honor Your Husband

“Men are from Mars and women are from Venus” couldn’t be a truer cultural statement, especially when it comes to communication and meeting each others expectations. According to one of my favorite marriage books, Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, men thrive in a marriage when they feel respected and women thrive when they feel loved. My husband and I have applied this theory to our own marriage and it’s helped us through the good, bad, and ugly. Here’s a list of practical ideas that you can apply to your relationship with your husband to help make your marriage flourish: Engage in conversation with him by being responsive with more than an “uh-huh” or “uh-uh”, open body language, and eye contact. Never threaten him with divorce. Take initiative and try to be the first to apologize, no matter how hard it is. Don’t nag, even if you think he’s ignoring you. Remind him often of how proud of him you are. Ask him what his pet peeves are and try your hardest not to …

Valentine's Day ideas: Re-create your very first date night

Valentine’s Day Ideas: Re-Create Your First Date

Recreating your very first date night is the perfect date night for a special occasion, anniversary, or Valentine’s Day. Reminisce about funny memories, simpler times, memorable moments, and how far you’ve come over the years. Bring back those feelings of excitement – minus the awkwardness, uncertainty, and nervousness – and spend a night walking down memory lane together. Here are a few things to think about as you go about re-planning your first date night: What time of the day was it? Was it in the morning, afternoon, or night? Try to plan it around the same time. What were you wearing? How did you do your hair? Don’t do the ultimate tbt and bring back fashion that should remain in the past but do find something similar. Were you wearing a summer dress? Casual? Dressy? Where did you go? Plan ahead and make reservations. What did you do? Think back to every detail of that night and how you can replicate it. Were there flowers, chocolates, or other small gifts? What conversations did you …