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Keep Your Marriage Connected with These 8 Questions

With the business of balancing work, family, and other additional commitments, you need to make your marriage a priority through connection and consistency. Whether you ask one or all of these questions, once a week or once a month, it’s healthy to put some time aside for your relationship and check in with each other. Also, remember that this is coming from a place of vulnerability. Treat each other with respect and avoid the blame game at all costs. Do you feel loved? This is a great question to get the conversation started. If you do feel loved, what are things your spouse did to make you feel that way? If you don’t, what can your spouse do to make you feel loved? Do you feel respected? The word “love” is easy to associate with marriage. The word “respect” is just as important but easily forgotten, especially in the heat of disagreements and busy schedules. Asking this question allows you both to slow down and keep respect at the forefront when it comes to priorities …

Why is everyone getting divorced?

Why is Everyone Getting Divorced? Top 10 Reasons According to Google

One thing you hear these days is that the divorce rate is on average about 50% and gets worse with sequential marriages. With statistics like that, all of us who aspire to love our spouses and grow a healthy and happy family might as well flip a coin at the altar. Heads, we make it. Tails, we’d better get a pre-nup. Here at Tonight’s Better Together, we don’t accept this as fact but as more of a cautionary tale. All it tells me is that it is harder than many think to have a successful and happy marriage. So being the data nerd that I am, I thought it might be interesting to see what the top reasons are for divorce according to the top search results from Google. Infidelity – This seems like common sense to most. If you park your car in a garage you don’t pay the rent on, you might have some issues with your landlord. But in all seriousness, infidelity is a major violation of trust with your partner and …

25 reasons why your communication is breaking down in your relationship

24 Reasons Why Your Communication is Breaking Down

If you find yourself fighting with your partner frequently, you may find it can often be attributed to poor communication. Communication, both verbal and physical, is how we interact with our fellow human beings all of the time. When you spend a lot of time with your significant other, there are many reasons why your communication might be breaking down. Here’s a few situations to avoid when communicating with your boo: Complacency – We all can get complacent from time to time. It’s like turning the cruise control on for your life. When you do this, you breeze right by red lights and warnings that will alert you to any issues in your relationship. Thinking you’re too busy – We all think we’re too busy but if you actually plan out your schedule, you might find enough time to talk to your boo. Social media – Social media is an amazing tool to communicate with friends, brands, and businesses. However, it is a terrible time suck if you let it be. Sign out of your …

Why you Forgot about Date Night

One thing I keep hearing from friends and family is that they don’t have enough time to go on a date night with their significant other or they meant to but forgot. Why is it so easy to write off some of the most potentially rewarding memories of your relationship? We all get busy; that’s just a part of life these days. Not that I completely agree with it myself, but I fall victim to it just as much as anyone else. A date night on top of a full work day, mixed in with possibly kids, volunteering, and other commitments can feel like it has no place in the week. Then the weekend comes and it’s time for chores, friends, and more commitments. It’s a vicious cycle, but then again no one ever said life was easy. This might seem like a bit of a downer up to this point. I’m with you 100%, but do we pay attention to whispers or war cries? Date night is meant to be a time for communication, …

50 Fun "Would You Rather" Questions to Get to Know Your Spouse

50 Fun “Would You Rather” Questions to Get to Know Your Spouse

Need a fun activity for date night that really gets the laughs and conversation flowing? Newly married or engaged and want to get know your partner even more? We’ve come up with some fun (and a few funny), thought provoking questions for you and your partner to get a little closer and laugh together. Find a quiet place, get comfy, light some candles, follow the instructions below and let the conversation begin! For a sampling of some of the questions look further down the post. To download a date night ready printable PDF containing all 50 questions with instructions included, purchase below. Take this date night wherever your hearts’ desire! Questions: Would you rather travel to the past or the future? Would you rather have hard fails or easy wins? Would you rather have an all-inclusive vacation on a tropical island or an all-inclusive historical journey through Europe? Would you rather have more money or more time? Would you rather hit the pause button on your life or the rewind button? Would you rather believe ignorance …

20 Ways to Appreciate Your Spouse and Stop Complacency From Damaging Your Marriage

Complacency is a nasty little thing. It’s a dangerous habit in marriage that’s easy to fall into and  can result in taking your significant other for granted. Time slips by and so do jobs, bills, kids, house, and family responsibilities. Before you know it, you and your spouse have no time to connect and you’re putting your relationship on auto-pilot. The best way to fight complacency in marriage is through appreciation. Here are 20 easy actions you can do to appreciate your spouse and stop complacency dead in its tracks. Bring your spouse flowers. Send your spouse appreciative text messages. Leave Post-It notes on the bathroom mirror telling your spouse how you appreciate them. Leave a letter of appreciation in your spouse’s car. Pack a note of appreciation into your spouse’s lunch box. Make your spouse a special dinner just because. Remember to say thank you when your spouse does something small for you. Remember to be appreciative if your spouse does something big for you. Buy your spouse a small gift to show them …

5 Successful Ways to Manage Expectations in Your Marriage

5 Successful Ways to Manage Expectations in Your Marriage

A lot of marital issues come from unmet expectations. It’s inevitable that when two people come together, there will be disappointment when it comes to building a life together.  Often times though, the pain of unmet expectations can be prevented. Let go of your assumptions and unrealistic expectations in a marriage by following these five helpful tips. 1. Communicate! The number one reason why there are so many let down expectations is due to lack of communication. If you can really grasp how to communicate with your partner, you’ll see an immediate increase in met expectations. 2. Needs versus wants This is a great question to ask yourself before or during the moment you feel your expectations aren’t being met. What do you really need versus what do you really want? Draw a line for yourself in between these two. For example, if you and your partner are going on vacation, make a list of things you need to make you happy. Mine is a nice place to stay with good service, a pool and …

Sexy Easter Egg Hunt - Add a Spark to Your Marriage!

Sexy Easter Egg Hunt – Add a Spark to Your Marriage!

This date night idea is not for those who blush easily. If you’re looking to add a spark to your marriage, we have a fun, spring themed activity to get the engines of romance revving. This is an adult, married couple Easter egg hunt that does not include jelly beans! Put the kiddos to bed and let the hunt begin.   Instructions Download, print, and cut out the PDF or write these ideas on stickies. If there’s any that make you feel uncomfortable, you don’t need to include them. Download here Purchase 3 of 12 packs of empty plastic Easter eggs. Stuff the Easter eggs with the sexy ideas. Put the kids to bed or find a baby sitter! Toss the eggs around the bedroom, living room, and dining room. Ready, set, go! It’s time for your spouse and you to collect as many as possible. Open your eggs when your ready to use them and follow the instructions on the papers in the eggs. I recommend both you and your spouse opening a few …

San Pedro, Belize

Everything You Need to Know for a Week in San Pedro, Belize

If you have been following us on Instagram, you’ve seen us post some dreamy, tropical photos lately. After a few months of hard work at our day jobs while balancing the blog and home life, Eric and I were in desperate need of a getaway. With that, we met Eric’s family for some good, ol’ fashioned R and R in the sunshine and aqua ocean of San Pedro, Belize. I think the main lesson for me during this vacation was to unplug! I’m a web designer by trade so I am constantly plugged in. The good news was internet connectivity was spotty. Just what I needed! Though it was tempting at first, I soon found myself only needing my phone to take a million, dreamy summer pictures. I even stopped paying attention to the time and what day it was. I call that a success! I was really able to finally relax for once and engulf myself in the tropical paradise of San Pedro. This being my first real international trip (Mexico and Canada don’t …

Christmas Recipes: Grandma’s Gingerbread Cookies

The best part of marriage is creating Christmas traditions together. In a world of Christmas cookies, there are so many options to choose from. How can we possibly make a decision? We default to what we know and trust; family traditions. One of our favorite Christmas cookie recipes is my grandmother’s soft and chewy gingerbread cookies. It’s time to break out the Kitchenaid! Preheat your oven to 325 degrees F.  If you are using metal cookie sheets, line with parchment paper. A candy thermometer would be useful but we have never used one. Baking is all about the love, right? Ingredients: 1 cup dark molasses ½ cup light brown sugar ½ cup white granulated sugar 4 teaspoons ground ginger 4 teaspoons ground ,cinnamon ¾ tablespoon baking soda 1 cup (2 sticks) unsalted butter at room temp (We’ve used salted butter with no problem) 2 large eggs, lightly beaten 6 cups sifted all-purpose flour Place the molasses, sugars, ginger and cinnamon in a double boiler over medium heat. We actually don’t own a double boiler so …

Salem Massachusetts

How to have the Perfect Day Adventure in Salem, MA

For anyone looking for a wonderful day date, Salem, Massachusetts may fit the bill with its rich historical past. Much of it is related to the Salem Witch Trials of 1692 – 1693, but there is so much more to the storied past of Salem. We just so happened to adventure through Salem around Halloween, which means that it is brimming with historical re-enactments, witch impersonators, and tons of other ghoulish fun. Salem is nestled just north of Boston along the coast and offers the adventuring couple many options to choose from. Here’s a list of recommended witchy and historical fun for you and your boo. 1. Hocus Pocus House You should definitely stop by the Hocus Pocus house on the way into town. This is the actual house featured in the film Hocus Pocus. It’s a little far away from the bustling downtown of Salem, so make sure to stop by on the way in or out of town. 2. Best parking in town For centrally located parking, head to the visitors center and …

Classic fettuccine carbonara recipe

Easy Date Night Recipe: Classic Fettuccine Carbonara

Sometimes we just want to stay in for a date night and that means curating our own experience. If you’ve been dating for about two seconds then you are well aware of how daunting a date night in can be. We strive to bring recipes and experiences that lend themselves to low pressure date nights that foster communication and relaxation. With that, we are happy to announce that the Tonight’s Better Together team is growing! We have the distinct pleasure to announce the arrival of Chef Joseph Choi to our team. Chef Choi’s professional training and field experience will add much more depth and insight into Tonight’s Better Together’s recipe portfolio. Before we get to the recipe, let’s look a little deeper into the man, the myth, the legend: Joseph Choi. He was born and raised in Spokane,WA and began his career in the food industry at the age of 16. He initially studied Biochemistry at Washington State University while continuing to work in a kitchen in Pullman, Washington. In late 2010, he made the …

Day date on Block Island, RI

Day Date on Block Island, RI

Most people are familiar with locations like Cape Cod, Martha’s Vineyard or Nantucket Island. Memories of warm summer days with Atlantic Ocean breezes may come flooding through your conscious mind. A fun fact, Martha’s Vineyard was where the original Jaws movie was shot, but you can relax because the shark was fake and anytime a great white gets anywhere near a beach the authorities are hot on its tail. However, there is a lesser known Island off the coast of Rhode Island that, in our opinion, could be better than any of the aforementioned locations. Block Island is a small island that is just a ferry ride away for any who wish to enjoy its shores. With the summer heat in full swing, my wife and I decided to take a day for ourselves and go find some cooler climates. We landed on Block Island as we had not been there before and we had only heard good things from friends. We were pleasantly surprised to find this to be a relaxing day for two. …

Wicked Tulips: Spring things to do in Rhode Island

Spring Date Ideas: Tulip Picking in Rhode Island

Spring has officially sprung and the flowers are starting to bloom all over the place. It’s time to come out of winter hibernation and explore the no longer brutal outdoors. If you and your honey are looking for a fun and relaxing afternoon outside, then you should think about checking out Wicked Tulips. It’s an annual event that takes place in Johnston, RI at the Wicked Tulips Flower Farm. This is a great place to get a few selfies of you and your boo or just to take pictures of a lot of different varieties of tulips. Also, they keep half of the field open for picking so you can take home a wonderful assortment of tulips to remember your adventure. They charge $1 per tulip so budget appropriately. FULL DISCLOSURE: you will need to purchase tickets ahead of time via their website and they do tend to sell out quickly if you’re planning to go on the weekend. The best way to find out when the tickets go on sale is to sign up …

Holiday Lighted Boat Parade - Mystic Connecticut

Christmas Date Ideas: Holiday Lighted Boat Parade in Mystic, CT

We are really excited that we’re just three weeks away from my favorite holiday: Christmas. Ok, I should rephrase that. I am really, really excited. I tend to go a little overboard and my poor husband is caught in the wake. We made a deal that there would be no mention of Christmas until the day after Thanksgiving. So naturally, the day after Thanksgiving, my husband woke up to a fully decorated house and two days after the turkey day, we were headed to a double date with some friends in Mystic, Connecticut to kick of Christmas festivities watching boats covered in bright little lights float down Mystic River. This is our second time heading to Mystic and as usual, we were enchanted by its charm and beautiful water fronts. Don’t be fooled by its small town feel though. When it comes time to celebrate fall and winter, they know how to do it right. From Clyde’s Cider Mill and corn mazes in the fall to their Holiday Boat Parade and Christmas tree lighting, there’s …