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Why is everyone getting divorced?

Why is Everyone Getting Divorced? Top 10 Reasons According to Google

One thing you hear these days is that the divorce rate is on average about 50% and gets worse with sequential marriages. With statistics like that, all of us who aspire to love our spouses and grow a healthy and happy family might as well flip a coin at the altar. Heads, we make it. Tails, we’d better get a pre-nup. Here at Tonight’s Better Together, we don’t accept this as fact but as more of a cautionary tale. All it tells me is that it is harder than many think to have a successful and happy marriage. So being the data nerd that I am, I thought it might be interesting to see what the top reasons are for divorce according to the top search results from Google. Infidelity – This seems like common sense to most. If you park your car in a garage you don’t pay the rent on, you might have some issues with your landlord. But in all seriousness, infidelity is a major violation of trust with your partner and …

65 date night ideas for active adventurous or outdoorsy couples

60+ Date Night Ideas for Active, Adventurous, or Outdoorsy Couples

Date nights don’t always have to be dinner and a movie. Whether you and your spouse love being outdoors, getting some exercise in, or enjoy trying something new, you’ll hopefully find something in this list that will give you a fun activity to try out for date night! Go kayaking – whether you rent or own kayaks, live by a river, lake, or ocean, hit the water with your boo for some awesome views and a good work out together. Go hammocking – you might laugh at this one, but this is seriously one of our favorite activities together. Though there’s no workout involved (unless you hike), it’s a great way to do something different and get outside together. Check out our version of this fun and unique idea! Go hiking – this is a great work out and you can experience some amazing adventures together. This is one of our favorite day date ideas to do on the weekends! If you live in the New England area, check out our hiking adventure at Beavertail State …

25 reasons why your communication is breaking down in your relationship

24 Reasons Why Your Communication is Breaking Down

If you find yourself fighting with your partner frequently, you may find it can often be attributed to poor communication. Communication, both verbal and physical, is how we interact with our fellow human beings all of the time. When you spend a lot of time with your significant other, there are many reasons why your communication might be breaking down. Here’s a few situations to avoid when communicating with your boo: Complacency – We all can get complacent from time to time. It’s like turning the cruise control on for your life. When you do this, you breeze right by red lights and warnings that will alert you to any issues in your relationship. Thinking you’re too busy – We all think we’re too busy but if you actually plan out your schedule, you might find enough time to talk to your boo. Social media – Social media is an amazing tool to communicate with friends, brands, and businesses. However, it is a terrible time suck if you let it be. Sign out of your …

Why you Forgot about Date Night

One thing I keep hearing from friends and family is that they don’t have enough time to go on a date night with their significant other or they meant to but forgot. Why is it so easy to write off some of the most potentially rewarding memories of your relationship? We all get busy; that’s just a part of life these days. Not that I completely agree with it myself, but I fall victim to it just as much as anyone else. A date night on top of a full work day, mixed in with possibly kids, volunteering, and other commitments can feel like it has no place in the week. Then the weekend comes and it’s time for chores, friends, and more commitments. It’s a vicious cycle, but then again no one ever said life was easy. This might seem like a bit of a downer up to this point. I’m with you 100%, but do we pay attention to whispers or war cries? Date night is meant to be a time for communication, …

Date Night Worthy Recipe: Dairy-Free 2-Ingredient Banana Ice Cream

This post comes on the heels of another creation by our resident Tonight’s Better Together Chef, Joe Choi. He brought you an amazing chocolate chip cookie recipe previously and now he’s come to finish the job by helping turn those cookies into ice cream cookie sandwiches! If you’re not quite sure about dairy free ice cream, get ready to have your mind blown.    Banana ice cream is exactly what it sounds like. It’s ice cream that is solely made up of bananas. This is a relatively easy ice cream to make and it is dairy-free, which means this will be delicious for everyone. Basically you want to take some ripe bananas, but not banana bread ripe, and peel and slice them into medallions. Next, spread them out on a tray and place them in the freezer for 15-25 minutes or until they are solid yet pliable, not frozen solid. Then you’ll want to use a food processor and blitz all the banana medallions until it starts to become smooth. Sometimes I will add a …

Date Night Worthy Recipe: Chocolate Chip Blondies

We’ve got another post curated by our resident Tonight’s Better Together Chef, Joe Choi. He’s got a two part recipe offering  the best dang plain bondies or chocolate chip blondies that can be adapted into chocolate chip cookies for your consuming pleasure. Read on to see how he takes a simple recipe to the next level just in time for date night.   It just so happened that my lovely friends, Eric and Stacey, managed to stop by my little hometown of Spokane on their move back west. We decided to make the best of it and collaborated on a recipe together, in person for once. It was a hot and muggy afternoon so we figured what better way to enjoy a summer day than with fresh baked desserts and some ice cream. I was told they had already posted a phenomenal chocolate chip cookie recipe but I implored them to try my personal chocolate chip cookie recipe that could easily be converted into a blondie recipe. To top it off, a little non-dairy, peanut …

Road Trip Wrap Up

For those who have been following along know that we’ve picked up our life again and have ventured back to the West Coast. We’re sure those of you who have made massive moves like this are shaking your head and wondering if we’re crazy or masochistic. We’re neither, we promise but it was the right time and place. We said some tough goodbyes to our East Coast friends and family, and through tear-filled eyes, we left behind some incredible people and some unforgettable memories. It’s not an end but a new direction. True to our adventurous nature, we decided to turn our cross country move into a road trip to remember. Here’s a blow by blow of our trip through the American heartland. Day 1: Long Island, NY Our first stop on our trip was to say our final goodbyes to our New York family. We spent the last hours on the East Coast enjoying the sunny warmth, dipping our toes one more time into the Atlantic. Our time on the beach was followed by …

50 Fun "Would You Rather" Questions to Get to Know Your Spouse

50 Fun “Would You Rather” Questions to Get to Know Your Spouse

Need a fun activity for date night that really gets the laughs and conversation flowing? Newly married or engaged and want to get know your partner even more? We’ve come up with some fun (and a few funny), thought provoking questions for you and your partner to get a little closer and laugh together. Find a quiet place, get comfy, light some candles, follow the instructions below and let the conversation begin! Instructions: Download the PDF! Print, cut, fold each question and place them in the bowl, times two (one bowl with the 50 questions for you and one for your partner). Take turns pulling questions from your bowls and answering them. You can’t say answer with “both” or “neither”. That’s cheating! If you have less time or 50 questions seems a little daunting, you can always print one copy, put them into a bowl and take turns answering until the questions are gone. Whatever is easiest for you! Questions: Would you rather travel to the past or the future? Would you rather have hard …

20 Ways to Appreciate Your Spouse and Stop Complacency From Damaging Your Marriage

Complacency is a nasty little thing. It’s a dangerous habit in marriage that’s easy to fall into and  can result in taking your significant other for granted. Time slips by and so do jobs, bills, kids, house, and family responsibilities. Before you know it, you and your spouse have no time to connect and you’re putting your relationship on auto-pilot. The best way to fight complacency in marriage is through appreciation. Here are 20 easy actions you can do to appreciate your spouse and stop complacency dead in its tracks. Bring your spouse flowers. Send your spouse appreciative text messages. Leave Post-It notes on the bathroom mirror telling your spouse how you appreciate them. Leave a letter of appreciation in your spouse’s car. Pack a note of appreciation into your spouse’s lunch box. Make your spouse a special dinner just because. Remember to say thank you when your spouse does something small for you. Remember to be appreciative if your spouse does something big for you. Buy your spouse a small gift to show them …

5 Successful Ways to Manage Expectations in Your Marriage

5 Successful Ways to Manage Expectations in Your Marriage

A lot of marital issues come from unmet expectations. It’s inevitable that when two people come together, there will be disappointment when it comes to building a life together.  Often times though, the pain of unmet expectations can be prevented. Let go of your assumptions and unrealistic expectations in a marriage by following these five helpful tips. 1. Communicate! The number one reason why there are so many let down expectations is due to lack of communication. If you can really grasp how to communicate with your partner, you’ll see an immediate increase in met expectations. 2. Needs versus wants This is a great question to ask yourself before or during the moment you feel your expectations aren’t being met. What do you really need versus what do you really want? Draw a line for yourself in between these two. For example, if you and your partner are going on vacation, make a list of things you need to make you happy. Mine is a nice place to stay with good service, a pool and …

How to Choose a Date Night Wine Like an Expert in Under 5 Minutes

Date night is an experience often enjoyed with a glass of fermented grape juice, also known as wine. However, how often do you find yourself staring at a huge rack of wine at your local store with no idea what to choose? Our resident aficionado Chef Choi had a few thoughts about how to make the selection process a little smoother. The first thing that might pop into your mind when deciding on the right wine is”, “What am I buying this wine for?” It could be for any of the following events: Specific dinner? Saving for later? Drinking immediately? Special occasion? Gift? This initial question can easily create a lot of pressure on a situation that really doesn’t need any. Chef Choi says, “don’t be afraid: start buying and trying wines. Wine is a very subjective commodity; there are good cheap wines and bad expensive ones. Eventually you will find the ones you like and the ones you don’t.” The perk to all of this is you will most definitely create memories along the …

Sexy Easter Egg Hunt - Add a Spark to Your Marriage!

Sexy Easter Egg Hunt – Add a Spark to Your Marriage!

This date night idea is not for those who blush easily. If you’re looking to add a spark to your marriage, we have a fun, spring themed activity to get the engines of romance revving. This is an adult, married couple Easter egg hunt that does not include jelly beans! Put the kiddos to bed and let the hunt begin.   Instructions Download, print, and cut out the PDF or write these ideas on stickies. If there’s any that make you feel uncomfortable, you don’t need to include them. Download here Purchase 3 of 12 packs of empty plastic Easter eggs. Stuff the Easter eggs with the sexy ideas. Put the kids to bed or find a baby sitter! Toss the eggs around the bedroom, living room, and dining room. Ready, set, go! It’s time for your spouse and you to collect as many as possible. Open your eggs when your ready to use them and follow the instructions on the papers in the eggs. I recommend both you and your spouse opening a few …

Christmas Recipes: Grandma’s Gingerbread Cookies

The best part of marriage is creating Christmas traditions together. In a world of Christmas cookies, there are so many options to choose from. How can we possibly make a decision? We default to what we know and trust; family traditions. One of our favorite Christmas cookie recipes is my grandmother’s soft and chewy gingerbread cookies. It’s time to break out the Kitchenaid! Preheat your oven to 325 degrees F.  If you are using metal cookie sheets, line with parchment paper. A candy thermometer would be useful but we have never used one. Baking is all about the love, right? Ingredients: 1 cup dark molasses ½ cup light brown sugar ½ cup white granulated sugar 4 teaspoons ground ginger 4 teaspoons ground ,cinnamon ¾ tablespoon baking soda 1 cup (2 sticks) unsalted butter at room temp (We’ve used salted butter with no problem) 2 large eggs, lightly beaten 6 cups sifted all-purpose flour Place the molasses, sugars, ginger and cinnamon in a double boiler over medium heat. We actually don’t own a double boiler so …

Classic fettuccine carbonara recipe

Easy Date Night Recipe: Classic Fettuccine Carbonara

Sometimes we just want to stay in for a date night and that means curating our own experience. If you’ve been dating for about two seconds then you are well aware of how daunting a date night in can be. We strive to bring recipes and experiences that lend themselves to low pressure date nights that foster communication and relaxation. With that, we are happy to announce that the Tonight’s Better Together team is growing! We have the distinct pleasure to announce the arrival of Chef Joseph Choi to our team. Chef Choi’s professional training and field experience will add much more depth and insight into Tonight’s Better Together’s recipe portfolio. Before we get to the recipe, let’s look a little deeper into the man, the myth, the legend: Joseph Choi. He was born and raised in Spokane,WA and began his career in the food industry at the age of 16. He initially studied Biochemistry at Washington State University while continuing to work in a kitchen in Pullman, Washington. In late 2010, he made the …