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Dangers of Expectation and How to Enjoy Your Valentines Day

Dangers of Expectation: 8 Ways to Actually Enjoy Your Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is an interesting holiday. It’s a holiday that doesn’t have a consistent fan base like Christmas or Halloween. You either hate it or love it. You can fear and loathe it or have a great expectation from past experiences or future dreams. You have an exact idea for how the night is going to go and so does your spouse or date. Due to different brains and weird circumstances that happen, your V Day can turn into D Day. Here’s how expectations work: you believe someone will act in a certain behavior. They are unaware. They do something different. You are disappointed, resentful or have regret towards your significant other. When putting it in the simplest terms, expectations become something silly, but we all have them anyway. Me and Valentine’s Day go way back. There have been times where I was a Valentine’s nut and other periods of time that I completely rebuked the day as a holiday. One guy I dated always made a grand and over-the-top effort while another guy took …

6 Valuable Things I Learned in my First Year of Marriage (from the guys perspective)

6 Valuable Lessons I Learned in the First Year of Marriage (from the Man’s Perspective)

The following points illustrate things that I have learned through my first year of marriage as a husband. These are not necessarily words to live but merely lessons that my wife and I are hoping will be valuable to our wonderful readers out there. I have heard, like most men have, the age old proverb, “happy wife, happy life”. While that is generally a fair piece of advice that was communicated to me on my wedding day, I couldn’t help but wonder “how do I go about that in the best way?!?!” So this is a compilation of my knowledge around that very question. 1. Pay Attention Self-admittedly I am still working on this particular point, but it should be said. As a guy, I tend to get laser focused on one thing at a time and my wife is able to juggle ten thoughts at once. You can see where conflict can come into play. One of the things I have noticed is that while I am never able to multitask effectively, making sure …

7 Valuable Lessons I Learned in the First Year of Marriage (from the Woman’s Perspective)

This is a round up of the top 7 things I’ve learned from marriage that weren’t always in the marriage books or past blogs I’ve read but are easy to implement into your daily life. This is not a general list but is written from the woman’s perspective. These are lessons I’ve learned as a woman, but there may be some sweet morsels in here too for the men out there. 1. The honeymoon stage doesn’t have to end. Towards the end of year one of marriage, I actually got this question more than I can count from my new newly wed friends: “When did the honeymoon stage end for you?” My reply? It doesn’t have to end. I’m not saying that your marriage will be bliss for the rest of your life but what I am saying is the honeymoon stage doesn’t have to have a shelf life of 6 months or a year. My husband and I approach the honeymoon stage as a mindset, not a state of mind. The definition of a …

3 Ways to Know When You're Ready to Date

Real Talk: Is it the Right Time to Start Dating?

The other night, we were celebrating the recent graduation of one of our friends and as usual, an interesting conversation was sparked as we began discussing his future plans. With his whole life ahead of him, fresh vision for what the future could hold and the excitement of a new career on the horizons, naturally the life questions started coming up in conversation. Any lovely ladies on the horizon? Thinking about dating anytime soon? The typical, fun questions we love to ask. But then the table got turned from us being the interviews to the interviewees. How did you guys meet? When did you know it was the right time to start dating? Great question, as that was a question I often asked myself before I met my husband. The conversation was so good and as I reflected back on the questions we answered, I had to share with you all. So for all of you out there who want to start dating, here is a run down of some things we learned about ourselves …