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Why is everyone getting divorced?

Why is Everyone Getting Divorced? Top 10 Reasons According to Google

One thing you hear these days is that the divorce rate is on average about 50% and gets worse with sequential marriages. With statistics like that, all of us who aspire to love our spouses and grow a healthy and happy family might as well flip a coin at the altar. Heads, we make it. Tails, we’d better get a pre-nup. Here at Tonight’s Better Together, we don’t accept this as fact but as more of a cautionary tale. All it tells me is that it is harder than many think to have a successful and happy marriage. So being the data nerd that I am, I thought it might be interesting to see what the top reasons are for divorce according to the top search results from Google. Infidelity – This seems like common sense to most. If you park your car in a garage you don’t pay the rent on, you might have some issues with your landlord. But in all seriousness, infidelity is a major violation of trust with your partner and …

65 date night ideas for active adventurous or outdoorsy couples

60+ Date Night Ideas for Active, Adventurous, or Outdoorsy Couples

Date nights don’t always have to be dinner and a movie. Whether you and your spouse love being outdoors, getting some exercise in, or enjoy trying something new, you’ll hopefully find something in this list that will give you a fun activity to try out for date night! Go kayaking – whether you rent or own kayaks, live by a river, lake, or ocean, hit the water with your boo for some awesome views and a good work out together. Go hammocking – you might laugh at this one, but this is seriously one of our favorite activities together. Though there’s no workout involved (unless you hike), it’s a great way to do something different and get outside together. Check out our version of this fun and unique idea! Go hiking – this is a great work out and you can experience some amazing adventures together. This is one of our favorite day date ideas to do on the weekends! If you live in the New England area, check out our hiking adventure at Beavertail State …

25 reasons why your communication is breaking down in your relationship

24 Reasons Why Your Communication is Breaking Down

If you find yourself fighting with your partner frequently, you may find it can often be attributed to poor communication. Communication, both verbal and physical, is how we interact with our fellow human beings all of the time. When you spend a lot of time with your significant other, there are many reasons why your communication might be breaking down. Here’s a few situations to avoid when communicating with your boo: Complacency – We all can get complacent from time to time. It’s like turning the cruise control on for your life. When you do this, you breeze right by red lights and warnings that will alert you to any issues in your relationship. Thinking you’re too busy – We all think we’re too busy but if you actually plan out your schedule, you might find enough time to talk to your boo. Social media – Social media is an amazing tool to communicate with friends, brands, and businesses. However, it is a terrible time suck if you let it be. Sign out of your …

Why you Forgot about Date Night

One thing I keep hearing from friends and family is that they don’t have enough time to go on a date night with their significant other or they meant to but forgot. Why is it so easy to write off some of the most potentially rewarding memories of your relationship? We all get busy; that’s just a part of life these days. Not that I completely agree with it myself, but I fall victim to it just as much as anyone else. A date night on top of a full work day, mixed in with possibly kids, volunteering, and other commitments can feel like it has no place in the week. Then the weekend comes and it’s time for chores, friends, and more commitments. It’s a vicious cycle, but then again no one ever said life was easy. This might seem like a bit of a downer up to this point. I’m with you 100%, but do we pay attention to whispers or war cries? Date night is meant to be a time for communication, …

Date Night Worthy Recipe: Chocolate Chip Blondies

We’ve got another post curated by our resident Tonight’s Better Together Chef, Joe Choi. He’s got a two part recipe offering  the best dang plain bondies or chocolate chip blondies that can be adapted into chocolate chip cookies for your consuming pleasure. Read on to see how he takes a simple recipe to the next level just in time for date night.   It just so happened that my lovely friends, Eric and Stacey, managed to stop by my little hometown of Spokane on their move back west. We decided to make the best of it and collaborated on a recipe together, in person for once. It was a hot and muggy afternoon so we figured what better way to enjoy a summer day than with fresh baked desserts and some ice cream. I was told they had already posted a phenomenal chocolate chip cookie recipe but I implored them to try my personal chocolate chip cookie recipe that could easily be converted into a blondie recipe. To top it off, a little non-dairy, peanut …

New York thin pizza crust dough and tomato sauce recipe

Date Night Worthy Pizza Dough and Tomato Sauce Recipe

It seems that everyone has a relationship with the cult classic pizza. Whether you like it thick, thin, extra cheesy or full of veggies everyone has their preference. Our resident Chef Choi came up with a date night worthy pizza recipe that is sure to delight you and your boo. Here’s what he has to say about this american institution.   I love pizza. I could probably eat pizza for the rest of my life and never get tired of it since you can make anything into a pizza. Have you ever had a taco pizza? How about a Big Mac pizza? If not, then you are missing out on a slice of hand-held, cheesy pleasure. But fear not, here is a relatively easy pizza dough recipe that will give you a great foundation to make any kind of pizza you can imagine. The possibilities are infinite and the world is your oyster, as long as you make into an oyster pizza. Thin Crust Pizza Dough Ingredients: 2.2lbs Bread Flour* 2 oz corn meal 1 …

Happy 4th of July

A Big Announcement + A Happy Fourth of July

We have a big announcement to share with you. After three years of incredible adventures, amazing food, unforgettable people, challenging weather, and the perfect place to start our marriage, we’re saying a bittersweet farewell to Rhode Island and starting a new chapter of our lives in Seattle, Washington. A very special thank you to those in Little Rhody that welcomed us, inspired us, and challenged us. We’ll be continuing our married adventure in the Pacific North West in just two short weeks. Stay tuned for an epic road trip through the northern half of the U.S. soon! We’re also excited to be celebrating the Fourth of July in Rhode Island one last time. One of the New England things we will greatly miss is the patriotism here. This is, after all, the epicenter of where the United States became its own country and it’s an honor to celebrate on the land where battles were fought, sacrifices were made, and freedom was won. To those of you in the U.S., we hope you have a happy …

Eric and Stacey

21 Things You Didn’t Know About Us

We spend a lot of time sharing date ideas, marriage resources, and recipes for two with you so we thought it was time we’d share a little about ourselves. Hope you get to know us a little better! Stacey: I have an obsession with sharks, especially great whites. I think they get a bad rap and great white attacks are because of confusion or curiosity. I do fear bull sharks though due to their territorial behavior. I actually had an encounter with one on the shores of South Carolina and was nudged in the leg a couple of times. I took it as a warning and Jesus-lizarded (is that a word?) across the water. My bucket list is swim with a Whale Shark. Eric: I don’t have an acute fear of spiders but I would safely say they are probably one of my least favorite animals on the planet. Eight legs just ain’t right and there is no way you can convince me otherwise. Stacey: Eric and I actually first met at church. It was …

Fun and Frugal Date Night Idea: DIY Nerf Gun Game

Fun and Frugal Date Night Idea: DIY Nerf Gun Game

Sometimes it’s a little fun to get goofy and have an unconventional date night. That’s why we came up with a fun DIY target practice date night for you and your special someone to try your hand in Nerf gun skills. Whether it’s just you and your boo or the whole family, get ready to have some fun. Perfect for anyone on a budget, a great stay-out-home date idea, or to celebrate your husband on Father’s Day. What you’ll need: 10 paper or plastic disposable cups (smaller cups are more challenging) Scotch tape Scissors One Nerf gun Nerf gun amo (this game calls for 10 shots per round) A large area in the house with no breakables around (a dining table works great!) This PDF printable for targets and score cards Paper A printer Instructions: Print the PDF targets and score cards then cut them out. Put the score cards aside; you’ll be using those during game play. Tape your cut out targets to the outside, upper part of the cup. If you have smaller …

Our Top Ten 2017 Posts for Marriage Resources and Date Ideas

Our Top Ten 2017 Posts for Marriage Resources and Date Ideas

We’ve successfully reached a second year in blogging and we have a lot to celebrate. We have an ever growing and amazing community of 5,000+ readers, we’ve written 94 posts, and have spent countless hours planning, researching, writing, photographing, and learning. We’ve even started a monthly newsletter, and have collaborated with fellow relationship bloggers and date night worthy products and services. The long hours haven’t been easy but it’s certainly been worth it! So in celebration of our two year blogiversary, here’s a round up of the top ten articles that became everyone’s favorite over the past year. If you’re not a weekly reader or if this is your first time here, this is a great way to get to know us. We invite you read and join the community. 1. 50 Questions to Really Get to Know Your Spouse Maybe you’ve been married for a while and the conversation has run dry. Maybe you’re newly married or engaged and want to know your partner on a deeper level. Or maybe you two are so …

10 Ways to Become an Expert Communicator in Your Marriage

10 Ways to Become an Expert Communicator in Your Marriage

Most marriage conflicts are caused by one issue: miscommunication. Communication seems simple. You talk, then your spouse talks, then you’re good! Right? Communication is a complex topic. Not only do people communicate differently but there are also multiple ways to communicate such as intention, tone, frequency, verbalization, and even physical. We have issues that every other marriage couple faces: in-laws, both families living on the other side of the country on opposite ends (always a touchy conversation regarding splitting the holidays), financial issues, heath problems, you name it. But we’ve resolved every single one of our fights within one hour or less through intentional communication in our marriage. We’ve simplified communication in marriage and compiled our experience into 10 easy-to-accomplish ways to become a pro-communicator with your spouse. 1. Replace nagging with encouragement Nagging doesn’t get you anywhere. It’s negative and belittles your spouse. When you change your nagging to encouragement, your spouse will be happier to respond and will feel respected. Start finding things your spouse does around the house that makes you happy …

Quick and easy ahi tuna poke recipe

Quick and Easy Ahi Tuna Poke Bowl Recipe

Another creation out of the kitchen of Chef Choi is ready for your next date night: the simple yet delicious poke bowl. If you say poke bowl fast it sort of sounds like poke ball. Yes, this is a really nerdy comment but it made me laugh. If you are a sushi fanatic but making sushi from scratch seems like a daunting feat, then you will fall in love with this easy recipe.   Poke is a Hawaiian raw fish dish that is typically made with tuna. It’s not seared or cooked in any way nor is it “cooked” like ceviche. So, if you’re into Sashimi then this flavorful recipe is a nice change of pace. I like to devour my poke over rice so that the sauce and all the juices seep into the rice while I eat it. Poke is a relatively easy dish to make; all you need is the ingredients, a little knife work, and some patience. First you want to cut the tuna into ½” by ½” cubes. Next, take …

50 Fun "Would You Rather" Questions to Get to Know Your Spouse

50 Fun “Would You Rather” Questions to Get to Know Your Spouse

Need a fun activity for date night that really gets the laughs and conversation flowing? Newly married or engaged and want to get know your partner even more? We’ve come up with some fun (and a few funny), thought provoking questions for you and your partner to get a little closer and laugh together. Find a quiet place, get comfy, light some candles, follow the instructions below and let the conversation begin! Instructions: Download the PDF! Print, cut, fold each question and place them in the bowl, times two (one bowl with the 50 questions for you and one for your partner). Take turns pulling questions from your bowls and answering them. You can’t say answer with “both” or “neither”. That’s cheating! If you have less time or 50 questions seems a little daunting, you can always print one copy, put them into a bowl and take turns answering until the questions are gone. Whatever is easiest for you! Questions: Would you rather travel to the past or the future? Would you rather have hard …

20 Ways to Appreciate Your Spouse and Stop Complacency From Damaging Your Marriage

Complacency is a nasty little thing. It’s a dangerous habit in marriage that’s easy to fall into and  can result in taking your significant other for granted. Time slips by and so do jobs, bills, kids, house, and family responsibilities. Before you know it, you and your spouse have no time to connect and you’re putting your relationship on auto-pilot. The best way to fight complacency in marriage is through appreciation. Here are 20 easy actions you can do to appreciate your spouse and stop complacency dead in its tracks. Bring your spouse flowers. Send your spouse appreciative text messages. Leave Post-It notes on the bathroom mirror telling your spouse how you appreciate them. Leave a letter of appreciation in your spouse’s car. Pack a note of appreciation into your spouse’s lunch box. Make your spouse a special dinner just because. Remember to say thank you when your spouse does something small for you. Remember to be appreciative if your spouse does something big for you. Buy your spouse a small gift to show them …

5 Successful Ways to Manage Expectations in Your Marriage

5 Successful Ways to Manage Expectations in Your Marriage

A lot of marital issues come from unmet expectations. It’s inevitable that when two people come together, there will be disappointment when it comes to building a life together.  Often times though, the pain of unmet expectations can be prevented. Let go of your assumptions and unrealistic expectations in a marriage by following these five helpful tips. 1. Communicate! The number one reason why there are so many let down expectations is due to lack of communication. If you can really grasp how to communicate with your partner, you’ll see an immediate increase in met expectations. 2. Needs versus wants This is a great question to ask yourself before or during the moment you feel your expectations aren’t being met. What do you really need versus what do you really want? Draw a line for yourself in between these two. For example, if you and your partner are going on vacation, make a list of things you need to make you happy. Mine is a nice place to stay with good service, a pool and …